Recently I uploaded a list of Wedding I Do’s & I Don’ts for the happy couple. Now it’s time for the guests Do’s & Don’ts.
Do: Show up early.
- The invitation says 5pm, be there by 4:30pm at the latest. It gives you plenty of time to park, find the location, find your seat, and maybe even stop by the bar to enjoy a drink before (if they have one at the venue).
Don’t: Be late!
- The show must go on no matter what. You being late will only anger your host since they wanted to start on time.
Do: Dress Appropriate.
- Whatever event you are attending (engagement party, shower, wedding), dress appropriate. Not all weddings are black tie & gowns for the guests, but it is a wedding, you should wear something like you would wear to church.
Don’t: Dress Inappropriately.
- If you put on your outfit & you wouldn’t feel comfortable wearing it to church, don’t wear it. Many weddings are in churches.
- Don’t wear a dress with a VERY low cut. Wedding events are not the place to have your cleavage hanging out.
- Don’t wear a dress that is too short, specially with heels that are too high. It looks like you’re going to the club.
Do: Bring a Gift.
- If you ordered something for the couple & it just didn’t get the memo about being there on time or you would like to make it easier at the end of the night & deliver on a later date, give them a card.
Don’t: Skip the Gift At All.
- Even if you don’t attend the event, you got an invitation, you always send a gift whenever you receive one.
- Never include cash in your card you take to the wedding. Gift cards & checks can be replaced if the card is lost. Cash can’t.
- It’s a wedding, get up & dance!
Don’t: Dance like No One is Watching.
- I went to a wedding where I saw someone motorboat his girlfriend on the dance floor..yup. Girlfriend was breaking the cleavage rule so it should’ve been expected I guess…..
Do: Have a Drink!
- The last post stated that as a host you need an open bar. So if they did that they spent a lot of money, help yourself to a drink or two.
Don’t: Drink too Much.
- Don’t drink so much that you throw up (guilty!).
- Don’t drink so much that you’re stumbling.
- Don’t drink so much that you pass out.
- Don’t drink so much that you decide it’s a fantastic idea to get on the dance floor with no shirt on & dance like you can barely hold yourself up (I really was a witness to this…..).
- Don’t drink so much that you decide to grab the mic & sing off key to everyone in the room, say mean things about the couple, or confess your love for the bride/groom.
Other Don’ts for being a wedding guest include:
- Don’t get into a fight. Fist fight, fight with your partner, whatever kind of fight. Just don’t.
- Forget to RSVP & then show up anyways
- RSVP & then not show up (I had a couple of people do this at my wedding. One had a fantastic excuse and texted me earlier in the day to apologize. The other didn’t have a good excuse & didn’t even bother to apologize….)
- RSVP late. The couple needs to give their venue/caterer a head count by a certain date.
- Assume you can bring a date. Ask the couple when you receive the invitation if you’re wondering.
- Forget to turn your cell phone off.
- While were at it, don’t use your cell phone during the ceremony. (I have a beautiful picture of me & my husband at the alter during the ceremony, behind us, his family. My photographer happened to snap a picture right when his cousin looked at his phone…..)
- Don’t wear a white dress. Unless the bride is Kate Middleton & you’re Pippa (as in the bride told you to wear white) you should never wear a white dress.